Finding love in a senior living community

Add romance to what single older adults look for when seeking housing

By Kimberley Fowler for Next Avenue

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There are many reasons older adults move into a senior living community, but is looking for love one of them?

Burdett Stilwell has been working with older adults for many years and, and as sales and marketing director of Somerby of Mobile,  she has had the pleasure of developing friendships with the many residents of this Somerby Senior Living home in Alabama. She’s up-to-date on who is dating whom. When it comes to relationships, Stilwell says, the Somerby people she knows fall into two categories: those who are interested and those who have “been there, done that.”

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Thanks to you, it’s mission accomplished!

shutterstock_206326795Our annual chicken and dumplings dinner isn’t just a meal – it’s a mission. The event benefits the Good Samaritan Program, which depends solely on donations from friends and supporters to care for seniors living at Presbyterian Manor who have outlived their financial resources through no fault of their own.

This year we raised $17,070 – that’s $3,000 more than last year! Thank you to all the volunteers and staff who helped make the 2017 dinner and silent auction successful.


Farmington Presbyterian Church
Healthdirect Institutional Pharmacy Services
Wayne & Dorothy Johnson — In Memory of Bernice Cleve
Medline Industries, Inc.

Barton Insurance Services
Little Caesars
Busenbark Flooring and Granite
First State Community Bank
Sheet Metal Contractors, Inc.
Plummer’s Ace Hardware
Chilton Oil/Propane
Jane Hull — In honor of all manor residents
Vance Vineyards & Winery
Ozarks Federal, The Homeowners Bank
Parkland Health Center
Aegis Therapies
Bold Marketing

Leadco Community Credit Union
Premier Fire Protection, Inc.
CP Sealcoating & Striping
Melvin Mills Roofing
All Type Service & Installation
Matt Douglas — Little Debbie
William Wise — In Memory of Mary Wise
Heidi Beyer
New Era Bank
M&T Water Well Drilling
Pat Larkin
Health Technologies
U.S. Foods
Concordance Healthcare Solutions
Belgrade State Bank
Kaye Wallen

Joan & Gary Rauls — In memory of Vinita Kirk
Lee & Paula Stephens — In honor of Leland Stephens
LaVerne Grotewiel
Gamma Healthcare
BioTech X-Ray
Lloyd & Jetty Reese
George & Phyllis McGuire
Sterling Dental
Rachel Campbell
Thomas & Candi LaMartina
Carol Winch
Josh, Christine & Ashlyn Dement
Warren & Glenda Corless
Byron & Kay Taylor
Carol Willman

Focus on senior fitness

FAPM_exercise_Mar2017-2Every May, we celebrate National Senior Fitness Week, to encourage older adults to stay active and maintain or improve their quality of life. Researchers have been able to prove these effects, too.

A New Zealand study cited by the Centers for Disease Control found that women 80 and older who did strength and balance training had 40 percent fewer falls. Strength training has also been found to increase bone density and lower the risk of fracture in women older than 50. Exercise also has positive effects on depression that are similar to results with anti-depressant medication.

We asked members of our community to tell us how and why they make fitness a priority. One of our readers, Barbara Rosener, submitted her story for us to share.

I am almost 80 years old and have always been active and blessed with lots of energy. Early in 2015 I had my hip replaced. After that I had to be careful for several months, and it seemed like my exercising days were over.

One day I decided I needed to join an exercise class geared to the elderly with arthritis. I called Jessica McKnight from the St. Francois County Health Center and asked if it would be possible to get a class like that started. She was very enthusiastic and started working on it right away. She wanted to do something for senior adults. The First Baptist Church in Desloge graciously let us use their aerobic room free of charge. The first of April 2016 the classes began.

I can’t tell you how much fun this has been for all of us. We play “old music” while we exercise. The camaraderie is great. We average 18 each class. My husband goes, and he had never taken an exercise class in his life. We celebrated the one-year anniversary of the class in April 2017.
Who would ever think some in their late 80s could and would exercise and have fun doing it?

If you feel inspired to follow Barbara’s example, we have many fitness opportunities at Farmington Presbyterian Manor. Activity Director Carol Winch said exercise classes are offered four times a week for assisted living residents, along with a weekly yoga class. In health care and memory care, there are exercise classes five times a week, with activities such as ball toss, Balloon Bump (with foam pool noodles) and range of motion with chairs.

Remember, if you haven’t been active in a while, visit with your doctor before starting an exercise program.

Don’t ignore these facts about sunscreen

5 ways to apply it right and help avoid skin cancer

By Sheryl Kraft for Next Avenue

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The sun’s power is undeniable: The largest object in our solar system, it contains approximately 99.9 percent of the total solar system mass. Its interior could hold more than 1.3 million Earths. The sun provides for our very life. But this 4.5 billion-year-old star also has the power to kill.

Melanoma, the most dangerous and potentially lethal form of skin cancer, is caused most often by intense UV rays of the sun, and its rates have been rising for at least 30 years. About 73,870 new melanomas will be diagnosed in the U.S in 2015, and approximately 9,940 people are expected to die, according to the American Cancer Society.

The typical victim? On average, a person is 62 when the cancer appears. The risk of melanoma increases as we age.

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The health benefits of pets for older adults

They reduce blood pressure, help us get exercise and brighten our outlook

By Ronni Gordon for Next Avenue

Caption: Bridget Irving and her Yorkshire Terrier, Ben

When Lynette Whiteman’s youngest child went to college, Whiteman went out and got a second dog that she calls “my empty nest dog.” She wanted someone else to care for, “who loves me non-judgmentally and doesn’t mind if I’m gaining weight or getting gray.”

Whiteman may get home from work tired, but the 60-year-old resident of Toms River, N.J., says the dogs stare at her until she puts their leashes on. She walks them and always feels good afterwards.

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10 ways to turn your finances around in 2017

How advisers say you can do it without a lot of effort

By Kerri Fivecoat-Campbell for Next Avenue


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Did you resolve to save more for retirement this year, become debt-free or put cash aside for a bucket-list trip? We’re more than a month into the new year, but there’s still plenty of time to turn your finances around in 2017.

Next Avenue spoke with a few noted money experts for their suggestions. Here are 10 recommendations:

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5 tips for disorganized taxpayers

How experts say you can avoid the mad scramble at tax time

By Rosie Wolf Williams for Next Avenue


Tax season is here and it may be causing you agita. Rifling through drawers for your 2016 tax paperwork; sorting a flood of receipts to qualify for write-offs; printing out assorted bank, brokerage and mutual fund statements and on and on.

Don’t hide under the covers. Instead, follow these five organization strategies from tax advisers to get your taxes together once and for all:

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4 money moves for a happier retirement

Advice from a writer who just combed through the latest retirement surveys

By Bart Astor for Next Avenue

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How do pre-retirees and retirees feel about retirement these days? Glad you asked.

Since this is “National Retirement Planning Week” (dreamed up by 40-odd financial industry and advocacy groups), a passel of retirement surveys have just been released. I’ve read them — so you don’t have to — and here are the highlights and four action steps to take based on the findings.

Interestingly, the results are somewhat contradictory.

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Senior cyber update

shutterstock_313058873How can I recognize viruses or malware? What can I do to prevent my computer becoming infected with a virus or malware? What do I do if my computer has been infected? These and other questions will be answered at a free presentation April 27 at Farmington Presbyterian Manor.

Connie Hall, computer information systems professor at Mineral Area College, will share tips on how to keep your computer safe from viruses and malware and what to do if your computer is infected.

“Senior Cyber Café II: Viruses and Malware” will begin at 2 p.m. April 27 at Farmington Presbyterian Manor, 500 Cayce St. The presentation is free. The talk is part of Farmington Presbyterian Manor’s Just Ask series, a free, ongoing lifelong learning program featuring information from local, regional and national experts on topics of interest to older adults and their families.

For more information about Farmington Presbyterian Manor or to RSVP for this event, contact Marketing Director Heidi Beyer at 573-756-6768 or

Making a memoir a reality

At 87, she wrote her life story and created a family treasure

By Edmund O. Lawler for Next Avenue


When my mother was a teenager, she got to meet the most famous athlete of the 20th century.

It was 1947. Babe Ruth, by then stricken with throat cancer, granted my mom and her sister a private audience in the beautiful Manhattan apartment he shared with his wife, Claire. The girls, accompanied by their mother, were awestruck as the now-retired Sultan of Swat autographed photos and chatted amiably with them about baseball in a painfully raspy voice. My mom didn’t have the heart to tell the Babe, who would die a year later, that she was a fan of her hometown Chicago White Sox.

My mom was celebrating her recent high school graduation with a train trip from Chicago to New York where she rode the coasters at Coney Island, beheld the Statue of Liberty and dined at the Stork Club. The visit with Babe was a complete surprise — arranged by her businessman father and one of his confidants in New York City.

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